15 March 2010 [Monday] @ March 15, 2010 edit
Bf going away for 6 months, should i break up with him?
hes going away to qeubec and hes going for 6 months. we just started getting really close with eachother. He told me today that he is moving their, and i dont know if we should break up or not. Weve only ben going out for a couple months, but like i said we have that bond now. i dont want him to go, he doesnt want to go either, but he has too. Should we break up?Long distance relationships usually don't work...sorry to say that but you will both be meeting new people. If you just started getting close, then maybe you should both start distancing yourselfs now or have fun while it lasts. You can continue to date him while he's gone but it's mostly likely going to end in one of you getting hurt. If you can manage to make sure you both see each other once or more a month than that's fine but other than that...I don't think it will work. You don't have to break up now, but when he leaves, that's when you should.I know what you are going through, i recently moved and I had a really serious relationship with a girl. I though it was best after 3 weeks of a long distance relationship to break up with her. I would honestly play it buy ear... some people are better at long distance relationships and others are not. I would stay together, but you can always end the relationship. It is tuff when you really care about the person, I know.
If you need anymore advice feel free to email me! :)Well sometimes if you like someone you think of them before you. And sometimes its necessary to do whats right, I think maybe that instead of having a fight over a long distance relationship you should break up with him but tell him that you still wanna be friends. Keep in touch in different ways like calling him, sending him mail, or maybe send him a care package! There are alot of ways to keep in touch you just have to find them. Hope you two stay close even if you are just friends! =) talk to your boyfriend
if you really like him then why cant you talk over the internet or calls or something..
it will be hard
but if you really like him then i dont see why it couldnt work..
good luck...
You guys should definitely break up. You two can get back together when hes back but theres no point in keeping a relationship like that.I do not know how far apart you will be but if it is where you would have to fly to see each other yes, you need to end it or move there.
It really depends on how old you are and whether you feel you can go for six months without wanting to date another guy and go out and have fun. Six months is a long time to wait for someone who may never even return to you or may find someone really interesting who he would like to go out with over there.
I would think VERY seriously about waiting.if it helps my boyfriend moved away too. and we had only being going out for 2 months but i knew him longer than that.
he moved and we decided to stay together and talk on the phone
all the time. it worked out perfectllyyy =] and we are still together now
he was gone for 5 months and moved back just before my birthday. and we have been together for a year and 3 months tomorrow =]
so i say you should stayyy togetherrr
trust me those 6 months will fly by,
i know mine didi dont want to ruin the relationship but,
u kinda have to, because if u wont see him for 6 months, he either might find a nother girl, or u might get over him,
6 months is REALLY longthe fact that u have ur doubts means u got trust issues and so instead of torturing urself the whole time he is away with questions of whether he is being faithfull or not, just break it off wit him...if u guys really do have a bond then wen he comes back, he will come back FOR u and TO u....;)only if you feel its not going to work.
if you love him, and he loves you, then at least TRY & make it work.
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mine, please? Xxxif u really like him or if you love him than i don think u should! Just wait for him he will be back.
nd if he loves you than he will not cheat you just have to trust him. Trust plays a big role in a relationship! If you dont think you can trust him than it won't work. im in a long distance relationship now and it is working fine. It doesnt work well with some people though. Good luck!stay with him, see how it feels for a while with him in qeubec and think about if you should really leave him..? it may be a good choice leaving him for a while then maybe when he comes back get back with him and go on from were you stopped (: keep in contact though it would be nice, you don't want to loose that bond you just starting building up. if you care for him like you say you do...i say give it a chance and if it doesnt feel right after a while then do what you feel is right. don't neglect the relationship just because he is going to be gone for 6 months. you can still talk and write and such. dont lose hope!
I am a Marine girlfriend and i know about seperation..trust me! if you like him and care for him...just give it a chance. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!!!! good luck with you.It sounds like you already have doubts about the relationship if you are thinking and asking us about this. Then I would say yes. Talk to him about it before he leaves and find out what he wants to do. You both need to be on the same page for a long distance relationship to work.If it's only the six months that he will be away, then why not try to maintain your relationship. If you like each other enough, you can make it work for the time he is away. If it will be more of a permanent move, then I guess you could try, but I don't honestly think you have a big enough bond for it to work.Well, it's only six months, so I would say no. Wait on each other. If it becomes too much to wait and you have your sight set on someone else, then give him a call and then end it, but don't close it. tough question.
do you really like him, or love him? if it's not love yet, do you see yourself falling in love with him? if so, then don't.
but if you just like him, the feelings aren't that strong, and you feel like that it won't go anywhere in the future then you should.
i hope you figure it out.
p.s. if you decide to stay together, it's going to be really hard.Yeah. Probably.
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...Have you talked to him? I would think he might have something to say on the matter. If you both think you can be faithful, after all it is only 6 months, then stay together, if not then break up. pretty simple really. This is a choice you have to make together, if you stay together its gonna be hard, although you will be able to stay in contact with him, through phone, e-mail, im, long distance relationships are always hard. I think you should stay together, but be ready for the hardships that await you. if yu feel as tho yu have a bond of trust then dont but i would say brake up baeuse yur not really sure if yu can trust him yet its too soon! it all depends on how yu feel . and what kinda of person yu are can yu handle a long distance relation ship? these are qustion to ask your self not uuss !! ahaha good luckk tho =]Yes! The reason I say that is because if you must question whether you should break up or not, most likely you won't be able to last 6 months. Of course you have nothing to lose by giving it a shot, but you seem like you may be young, live life! Why wait around for a guy you've only been dating a couple of months for?You don't have to "break up" but understand that if he's that far away, it'll be very easy to stray.Will he be returning? If you are both comfortable with staying together, establish some common guidlines to follow regarding going out with friends, who calls who and when, etc.just try the long distance thing, for me personally it doesnt work cause, i need to be able to see her and touch her or there's a big chance i'd get bored and starts thinking im single.Leave it as an open relationship. This will allow both of you to be free of commitment, but still maintain your close relationship in conversations, and when he gets back.
That's what my gf and I did when I was away for 4 months (this was about a year ago) and we're still together, with no regrets.Try to keep it going, but to be honest, it probably won't work out. Long distance relationships rarely ever work.if you really care for him you should be willing to at least give it a try. if it doesn't work out then break up. just follow your heart. good luck to you!if you really like him and dont wanna break up then you shouldnt have to. try to make it work. some long distance relationships do work out! and before you know it he will be back home. just give it time and listen to your heart. yes it is a long time but if you care about each other as much as you think you do then nothing will go wrong. No! just because someone needs to go away for awhile like college, business or even war there's other way to stay in contact like writing e-mail to each other cause it only for six month if you really like him.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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